Expert answer
Needing approval—from partners, friends, coworkers, or even strangers—is human. But when it becomes constant, exhausting, or tied to your sense of worth, it may signal underlying self-esteem concerns. A self-worth test can help you see whether your need for validation stems from insecurity or simply a desire for connection.
Approval-seeking vs. healthy connection
Wanting to be liked isn’t the problem. The issue arises when your mood hinges on others’ reactions, or you change your opinions/behavior to gain praise. Low self-worth often shows up as: “If they don’t approve, I’m not okay.” A self-worth assessment measures how much your self-value depends on external feedback versus internal stability.
Check in with yourself today
Ask:
- Do I feel anxious if someone doesn’t respond positively to me?
- Do I apologize excessively—even for things that aren’t my fault?
- Do I struggle to make decisions without checking with others first?
- Do I feel “empty” or unworthy when alone?
If yes, your need for approval might be masking deeper self-worth questions.
To gauge where you stand, a self-worth test is a solid professional starting point—it maps your relationship with validation in a clear, non-shaming way.
Remember: This information is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment.